Japan’s capital is the most densely populated city in the world, so there should really be no excuses for not finding yourself a date.
We’ll show you how to meet girls in Japan’s capital city – including which bars, clubs and daygame hotspots are best to use, plus the best dating apps. We’ll also touch on some of the ways you can improve your technique to pick up women in Tokyo.
Meeting Women in Tokyo
If you are looking to meet women with a view to picking up in Tokyo then it is advisable to ensure that you are hitting up foreigner-friendly locations.
Whilst many Japanese people do speak English, it is estimated that only around three in ten can actually communicate well enough to be understood. So, save yourself a bit of time in advance and make sure you aren’t in a locals only part of the city.
Whilst there are some cultural differences to the usual ‘rules of engagement’ that are worth remembering when trying to pickup women in Japan, the best locations to find ladies is pretty similar to any other major international city. During the day, we are talking about shopping malls, cafes and stores as well as on the street.
By night, bars and clubs are the obvious hot spots for Tokyo’s singles as well as in some of the busy streets around restaurants, theaters and late night stores.
There are one of two places we can advise that you don’t try to pick up women and this anywhere around the red light districts of Kabukicho, Gotanda and Dogenzaka.
For obvious reasons, any ladies you might ‘hit it off with’ here could well be working girls and you may end up having to pay for her company. Likewise, avoid any hostess bars and KTV clubs as the women here are on the clock and, no matter how much you might like them, they most often have a policy of not dating customers.
- Dress to impress and make sure you smell good
- Pick the right spot to find a date and wait before making your move
- Be patient but don’t waste time
- Keep your approach simple and drop the ‘banter’
- Be assertive and take the lead
- Respect personal space and don’t expect to get too touchy/feely
- Don’t give up after the first rejection
So, where can you find women to try your moves on? We’ve covered some suggested locations below which mainly cover the central areas of Shibuya and Roppongi. The latter is well known for its nightlife and is popular with tourists as well as locals making it ideal spot for meeting women in Tokyo.
Bars and Clubs
Whilst clubs aren’t always the easiest place to talk to a girl they do offer that instant connection of getting up close and personal.
Bars, on the other hand, are usually a bit quieter but you have to work a bit harder with conversation. The choice between the two depends on the kind of women you want to meet and the kind of guy you are. As in any other city, clubs are frequented more by people in the 20s and 30s whilst bars can appeal to all age ranges.
We’ve picked some bars and clubs in Ginza, Roppongi and Shibuya which we think are great places to meet girls in Tokyo.
Ginza is an upmarket and luxurious district with some of the most expensive shops in the world, mainly retail there is a great club here called Genius which is well worth a visit if you fancy trying your hand at meeting sophisticated women in Tokyo. Formal dress is required so be prepared to look your best but the effort will be rewarded with some high-class ladies and a top quality club experience.